Christmas: the worst time for couples

Written by: Anel Martínez



Time to read 2 min

As the festive season approaches, the air is filled with the scent of cinnamon and joy, yet for some couples, Christmas or the holidays marks a challenging period. Surprisingly, statistics reveal that separations and divorces experience a noticeable uptick during this time of the year. The holiday season, often associated with warmth and togetherness, paradoxically witnesses a rise in relationship challenges.

For many, the pressure to create picture-perfect holiday moments can be overwhelming. The societal expectation of flawless celebrations may intensify pre-existing tensions within relationships. Financial strains from gift-buying, coupled with the stress of organizing events, can become catalysts for disagreements.

When exploring the reasons behind these seasonal separations, it’s crucial to recognize the impact of heightened expectations during Christmas. Striking a balance between festive cheer and realistic expectations may be the key to preserving relationships during this potentially tumultuous period.

Surviving the Season: What can be done?

Moreover, it’s essential to prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to festive activities. Rather than succumbing to the pressure of creating a perfect holiday, couples can focus on shared moments that bring genuine joy. From cozy evenings by the fireplace to simple yet meaningful traditions, finding common ground fosters a sense of togetherness. 

Strategies for Couples Facing Holiday Strains

For couples struggling during the holiday period, it’s crucial to recognize that challenges may arise, but with the right strategies, these can be overcome. Here’s what to do:

  • One effective approach is to establish a balance between togetherness and personal space. Acknowledging the importance of individual needs during the holiday hustle can prevent feelings of overwhelm and foster a healthier dynamic.
  • Additionally, couples can create a joint plan for managing stress, whether it be through delegating responsibilities, setting realistic expectations,  or even establishing a signal for when one partner needs a moment to decompress. Flexibility is key, as unforeseen circumstances may arise, and being adaptable allows couples to weather the storms together.
  • Seeking support, be it from friends, family, or professional counselors, can also provide valuable insights and assistance during challenging times. By embracing open communication, flexibility, and a shared approach to managing stress, couples can not only survive but thrive during the Christmas season.

Maintaining realistic expectations about the holiday season and acknowledging that imperfections are part of the charm can alleviate undue stress. By approaching Christmas with open communication, shared joy, and a realistic mindset, couples can strengthen their connection and emerge from the festive season with cherished memories. If your relationship feels a bit off or lacks that special spark,  check out this interview with couples who’ve been together for a long time. They share their experiences and tips on navigating both the good and tough times. It’s a great read for some relationship inspiration!

Anel Martínez

Author: Anel Martínez (Sexual Coach at MYHIXEL)

Sexologist specializing in sex therapy and sex education, mental health and human behavior.